Topics for Just-Engaged Couples and What To Do Now
You got engaged in Northern Ireland, now what do you do? A few topics to discuss and what to do next. You’ll start planning your big day, but the mistake couples make is diving right into their planning TOO EARLY. Below are a few topics to talk about.
Then suddenly, every conversation centres around, and there’s not too much room for continuing to learn about each other. If you are engaged or think you might be soon, here are the top four conversations to have with your partner when getting prepared. Taking the time to talk through these topics can greatly benefit your marriage in the long run. Obviously, I’m NOT a councillor, I’m an Engagement Photographer! Additionally, choosing meaningful locations can make your photo shoot more special and memorable.
What are your values?
By this point in your relationship, you probably have a pretty good idea of what your partner’s values are. Religion, politics, and family matters are topics that most people discuss early on. Even so, it can be helpful to continue to talk about different life values.
If you don’t know what exactly to discuss, there are six categories of questions to ask each other: affection and sex, beliefs and values, family and home, interests and favourites, personality and habits, and not forgetting work and money.
The Dreaded Money and Finance
The financial aspect of marriage is the one that can make or break your relationship, depending on how you handle it. Setting expectations for how you and your spouse will handle finances is extremely important, especially before you even get married. Money is undoubtedly the thing couples fight over the most. Other things to consider include having separate or joint accounts, how you want to budget, how you will spend any disposable income and how you will communicate with each other about spending. Talking through things will help prevent many unwanted surprises later on.
Family
There are several things that you can discuss before marriage, even if you both seem to get along with each other’s families, it can still be beneficial to talk about things. When it comes to both of your families, some good things to talk through are how often you will want to visit them. The same goes with discussing boundaries, like, are you okay with your in-laws randomly popping in? Also, whether or not you want to have children and if the answer is yes from both of you, next is discussing your ideal timeline for starting a family. If one or both of you already have children, then your conversation will be more focused on blending families and what that will look like.
What are your Dreams and Goals
Dreams and goals can be very personal to the individual, and because of this, some couples may not think to share their dreams intentionally. It is essential to share dreams as a couple, whether they are the goals you have for your life together or more personal aspirations you have for yourself. Whatever dreams or goals you have, be able to share them with your partner. Now is a very good time to start dreaming of your future together.
Book Your Wedding Suppliers ASAP
I would book your wedding suppliers as soon as possible. Probably your top priority is the venue. Other top-level suppliers should be your highest priority, like photographers (like myself, lol), videographers (again like myself, lol), makeup artists, and hairstylists. These are usually booked up one to two years in advance. Here’s a list to book NOW
Wedding Photographer (hey, check me out on this website!)
Videographer (hey, check me out on this website!)
Celebrant or Registrar
Band or/and DJ
Florist
Dress Alterations
MUA and Hair Stylist
Caterer (if not supplied by the venue)
Are you searching for a Photographer?
If you are after engagement photos and searching for a photographer who’s fun and relaxed, contact me. There are lots of other places and towns I photograph in. I’d like to hear about your plans.
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